Rediscover Each Other. Rebuild Your Connection. One Real Conversation at a Time.
Marriage Counseling in Fairfax, VA
“We barely talk anymore… unless it’s about groceries or who’s picking up the dry cleaning.”
“Every time she says, “Can we talk?” it feels like I am bracing for failure.”
If your marriage feels more like project management than partnership, you are not alone. Maybe it’s been weeks since you shared a meal or a laugh. Maybe every conversation is either logistical or loaded.
You’ve tried to reconnect. You’ve read the books. You’re working on yourself. You’re trying to initiate gently. But it still feels like you’re shouting into a void.
You miss your partner. And maybe even more - you miss yourself. Those late-night talks. The inside jokes. The version of you that felt alive, playful, hopeful.
Now, your days are full of holding it all together. And your nights? Full of overthinking and quiet tears.
You’ve Googled “how do I know if my marriage is over?”
But something in you hasn’t given up. You’re here.
And that’s where the healing begins.
Marriage Counseling That Helps You Reconnect - For Real
Many couples aren’t short on love. They’re short on tools.
You might have grown up in a family that didn’t talk about feelings. Maybe conflict was avoided, or love was shown through action, not emotion.
But now? Silence is making things worse.
Every time your partner says, “Can we talk?” it feels like you’re bracing for failure. You don’t want to lose them. And you are exhausted from pretending everything’s okay.
Marriage counseling can help you move from surviving to reconnecting - without blame or shame.
Common Topics Couples Bring to Therapy:
“We don’t talk anymore unless we are arguing.”
“We feel more like roommates than partners.”
“I don’t feel heard or appreciated.”
“There’s been a betrayal and I don’t know how to trust again.”
“We want to stay together, but we don’t know how.”
What Happens in Marriage Counseling?
I offer marriage counseling in Fairfax VA for couples stuck in painful patterns - those on the edge of burnout, but not ready to give up.
We start by slowing things down. Instead of rushing into tools or tips, we focus on helping you feel safe enough to show up honestly. Sessions aren’t about scripts or lectures. They are about real-time emotional connection.
In our work together, you’ll learn how to:
Speak from your emotions, not your defenses
Listen for what’s beneath the withdrawal or shutdown
Identify and shift the repetitive negative cycles
Rebuild trust with honesty and care
Show up with real presence - not performative gestures
“I never knew he could understand me.”
“It’s the first time I’ve felt like we’re on the same team in years.”
That’s the power of couples therapy rooted in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—it creates felt safety, not just surface-level fixes.
“I never knew he could understand me.”
“It’s the first time I’ve felt like we’re on the same team in years.”
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Fairfax, VA
My work is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) - an evidence-based approach that helps couples create secure emotional bonds.
Unlike traditional talk therapy, EFT focuses on emotional safety and vulnerability, which research shows are key to lasting relationship change.
Whether you are facing constant arguments, emotional disconnection, betrayal, or a long period of “roommate mode,” EFT can help you reconnect.
Multicultural Couples Counseling in Northern Virginia
As a therapist with a multicultural background, I understand how cultural expectations, gender roles, family dynamics, and emotional vocabularies affect relationships.
I work with couples navigating:
Intercultural or interracial dynamics
Immigration stress and identity conflict
Different “languages of love” or communication styles
Generational beliefs around emotions, parenting, or intimacy
This isn’t about assigning blame.
It’s about making space for your humanity and creating a relationship that honors both of you.
Ready to Reconnect? Let’s Take the First Step.
I offer marriage and couples counseling in Fairfax, VA, and virtually across Virginia for couples ready to rediscover what brought them together and build something stronger.
Start with a free, 20-minute video consultation. We will meet face-to-face, talk through your questions, and see if the fit feels right. If it doesn’t, I will help you find someone who is a better match, because you deserve support that actually helps.